Developing Spiritual Intelligence: The Art of Responding vs. Reacting
By jona bryndis, Jul 13 2016 04:54PM
Developing Spiritual Intelligence is about learning better ways to handle impedances – or dissonances as we call them in Energy Work. From a general energetic self-healing perspective any dissonance can be seen as something that ‘rubs-us-the-wrong-way’ – dissonance is the opposite of resonance. However, when we are caught in our inner coping and defense patterns we are often not able to differentiate between what's truly resonating with us. We are bound to react instead of having the freedom to respond.
Energetically seen, dissonances are nothing but triggers creating an inner resistance. They have the power to activate a pre-existing energetic charge and with it a lower energetic state and its associated programmed response patterns. Triggers are individual to all of us and depend on our life’s experiences and cultural programming. Triggers can be pain, trauma, drama, but also places, items, persons, actions or sensations – they can basically come in as any form of energy, either from the outside (for example: something somebody says or does to us) or from the inside as a result of a momentary inner (mental) thought, physical sensation, emotion or energetic shift.
Most of our pre-existing response patterns, such as anger, fear, revenge, control, guilt or shame are hardwired in our cell-memory, either through autonomic nervous reactions, conditioning or learned patterns of behavior. Through a neurological and energetic feedback, any experienced dissonance is recorded and stored in our energy field. Without being aware of it we are caught in an unconscious reactivity cycle based on survival, ego-and defense patterns.
In a reactive state we experience life as a constant challenge or struggle and regard ourselves as either prey or predator – victim or perpetrator. Typically, the more struggle a person subjectively experiences the more complex the stored defensive or aggressive mechanisms. Avoiding, escaping and fighting are just a few examples of this old way of programmed reactivity.
With this attitude towards our inner and outer world, our outlook on life and people around us can become hostile and the vibratory level of our coping skills is therefore comparably weak or even non-existent; but worst of all, this inner alignment typically further perpetuates low vibratory states, triggers, and reactionary patterns to a point where dissonances keep manifesting in an endless cycle of repeating inner and outer drama. As s result of this constant flight-or-fight perception many energetically sensitive people live in a constant state of anxiety, excessive mental looping and controlling as coping mechanism for attempted damage reduction.
Through self-healing and spiritual energy work we can learn to overcome our reactive patterns and learned coping mechanisms. Active and heart-based consciousness development can help us to tap into our higher spiritual and emotional intelligence. Through consciously creating more evolved ways of inner and outer communication, it can enable us to transcend predisposed inner programs. As a result we are able to increase our energetic and spiritual stance in a way that allows us to develop a new level of Spiritual Maturity.
Spiritual maturity entirely changes the outlook on life. It shifts our perception of Self, the world and other people to a much more amicable view and changes our self-understanding to one in which they can see themselves as active co-creators of their life’s experiences. However, contrary to many religious views this does not mean that we have to tolerate wrongdoings or find payoff in sacrifice or suffering pain; on the contrary! Through actively participating and consciously owning our energetic/emotional states we are communicating a new level of responsibility for our life as a whole. This enables us to fully commit to our life in a new way that allows us to take charge of our experiences.
Energetically, this shift can be a fundamental game changer. It facilitates the resonance with higher vibratory states and solution finding strategies and allows for a paradigm based on love and self-love rather than self-preservation and survival. A spiritually mature stance does not only lead to a massive shift in our subjective experience of life but also provides us with a new tool-set of being able to identify and transmute programmed patterns as we go.
Spiritual maturity enables us to respond rather than react; it increases our response-ability and with it our ability to find cooperative and mutually positive solutions (win-win) - to a point where challenges can be regarded as welcome opportunities for making corrections, improvements and enhancements.
Granted, for basic survival purposes some dissonances need to be warded off and boundaries have to be maintained immediately. However, if we can incorporate heart-based reflecting, allowing, and letting go as our new way of dealing with challenges in life, we can create a healing space within ourselves that enables us to face anything! The core every self-healing process is to create this space within our hearts so that we become able to respond with higher vibratory skills to which we don’t have access to when caught in our reactive programming.
Spiritual intelligence, and with it our true strength, comes from a viewpoint of embracing all states and emotions and their challenges as tool for learning and improving.
Thank you for your time,
energy coach & founder of transCODES